Notes for parents of both parties at engagement party

Betrothal is a ritual that has been passed down from ancient times and refers to the conclusion of a marriage contract before the formal marriage. As a new parent, in

Betrothal party

Spirit of contract

On September 24 this year, an article titled "210,000 sky-high bride price, screenshots of the young couple's chat in Yancheng were exposed" quickly exploded on the Internet and triggered widespread discussion.

The story goes something like this: Two people have been dating for three years and are going to get married on National Day. The woman's parents began to ask for a bride price of 100,000 yuan, and the man agreed. A second sudden increase of 80,000, the man again agreed. On the second day after this, the woman's parents suddenly added 30,000, and the man completely quit, only to have the following article. The key to the whole incident is not the so-called "sky-high bride price" of 210,000 yuan, but the capricious price increase.

Therefore, before both parties communicate and finalize all the details of the engagement party, the most important thing is to have a spirit of contract, not inconsistent and capriciousness. The most gratifying thing for parents is that their children are married to love, not money.

Set time in advance

The new couple for engagement, marriage experience is insufficient, at this time, parents as experienced, need to guide the new, determine the date in advance, so that both sides are fully prepared. Parents who care about auspicious days can also check the old calendar.

Communicate engagement details beforehand

An engagement party is not only a necessary process for two couples to officially enter into marriage, but also a transitional stage for two families to become one. Therefore, the parents of both sides must communicate in advance to avoid unnecessary contradictions on this festive matter. The main content of the communication between the parents of both sides is the engagement price, engagement links and other issues.

In addition, you should also communicate with your son (or daughter) enough to let them help communicate their ideas, and ultimately produce a very satisfactory result for both families.

Customs and economic conditions vary from place to place. The man's parents can according to their own family situation combined with customs, put forward the approximate bride price, the woman's parents should according to the actual situation, a little more understanding, with a calm attitude to discuss.

Betrothal party

Simplify the engagement

In the traditional engagement ceremony, there are ancestor worship, bread, welcome, introduction, tax, sweet tea, tea ou, finger rings, the woman's return and other links, the whole process is very tedious, so it is recommended that both parents in the premise of full attention to simplify the entire engagement process. However, due to the differences in origin and ideas of the two sides, the degree of emphasis and ideal links will be different, and this is the first two sides can reach a consensus.

Western engagement

If the wedding ceremony is confirmed to be Western, then why not try a Western engagement ceremony?

In the Western-style engagement ceremony, the parents play a more supportive and blessing role. At the entrance, the father of the bride enters with the bride. There is no bride price, return gift and other things in the engagement wedding, mainly to promote the understanding of the two families, similar to the Party, by both parents or one of the host.

Parents who have gradually grown old, to see their children finally married, the heart must be happier than the new.