At the time of marriage, not only the man needs to present the wine, but also the woman needs to present the wine. There are two opinions about who pays for the woman to present the wine. One view is that the woman pays her own money, because marrying a daughter is the woman's family affair, so the woman needs to bear the banquet money. The other view is that the man pays, and because so many people do it, it becomes a rule.
First, married women put wine who pay
1. The man pays
One view is that no matter how many times the banquet is held, and no matter who is the host, the money for the banquet should be paid by the man. It's like an established rule that everyone follows. Therefore, most people believe that from the traditional customs and the impression of the man in the wedding, the married woman should pay for the wine.
2. The woman pays
There is also a view that since the wedding banquet of both men and women is held separately, then they also need to bear the cost of their own wedding banquet. Because the cost of the wedding banquet and other wedding customs, are not clearly defined in the law, in the final analysis, everything also needs to be negotiated by the new people. Therefore, from the point of view of equality, it is better for married women to pay for their own wine.
It should be noted that no matter who pays for the woman's wine, the important thing is that the festive atmosphere and happy moment of marriage between the husband and wife, do not put the cart before the horse, and hurt the feelings between the husband and wife for money.
Second, does the gift money include the banquet money
In the traditional sense, betrothal money does not include banquet money, betrothal money is generally used by the man to the woman to buy furniture, home appliances, clothes, etc., of course, many people are directly to the woman's parents. The woman's parents usually use the bride gift money to buy a dowry for the woman, such as some gold and silver jewelry, or daily necessities.
Betrothal money is generally given jointly by the two families, as for whether the betrothal and banquet money are separated, the specific can be determined according to local customs, if someone is together, when talking about betrothal money, the two families can also discuss together.