The six rites of marriage refer to the six rites of marriage proposal, marriage union, engagement, engagement, invitation, and welcoming. Chinese culture has a long history and customs vary in different regions. When it comes to the wedding of a newlywed, the process of this wedding custom may also differ slightly. In some regions, there is a demand for all six rituals.
What are the six complete rituals
1. Propose marriage
Marriage proposal, also known as marriage proposal, requires a matchmaker to guide the way if they met on a blind date. The man prepares the marriage proposal gift and accompanies the matchmaker to the woman's house to propose; If it is a free love, the man should prepare corresponding wedding gifts according to local wedding customs for the bride's family to propose.
2. Marriage together
Marriage by marriage means combining the eight characters. In the past, matchmakers would write the woman's name, birth date, hometown, and other information into a Geng Tie and send it to the man's house. If no unexpected or inauspicious events occur within three days (such as smashing bowls or pots), the man and the woman would exchange Geng Tie, and each party would invite someone to marry together. If there is mutual restraint, the marriage would not be successful.
In today's society, where marriage freedom is emphasized, the process of getting married together has been omitted. However, in some regions, this process is still retained as a formality.
3. Engagement
Engagement is actually an engagement, and the man needs to prepare gifts and go to the woman's house to confirm the marriage. Usually, engagement gifts are selected based on local engagement customs. After receiving the gift from the man, the woman should reciprocate and inform her relatives and friends that the marriage has been arranged.
4. Xingpin
Xingpin, also known as "sending a job". In the process of offering a job, the female party should also give back a gift, that is, returning a portion of the dowry to the male party and giving back some items with auspicious meanings.
5. Please wait
After the betrothal ceremony, the groom's family usually seeks the bride's birth date and eight characters from the bride's family, and calculates the appropriate wedding date. After calculating the suitable wedding date, the groom needs to write a request letter and send it to the bride's family to obtain their opinion. At this point, both the male and female relatives and friends are required to send congratulatory gifts. The gift given to the bride is also known as "sending pollen".
6. Welcome, my dear
Marriage is the ceremony where the groom goes to the bride's house to marry the bride, and it is also the most important procedure in the entire wedding. Welcoming a bride expresses respect for the female party, and people in the community attach great importance to welcoming a bride. Without this process, the female party may feel undervalued.