Return time: The marriage return time varies from place to place and can be determined according to local customs.
DRESS up: When returning home after marriage, the bride and groom should dress formally and pay attention to dress taboos.
Return gift: The new son-in-law should give the in-laws "return gift", "return money", and according to different customs, bring different gifts.
Return door banquet: When the couple gets married, the female family holds a banquet, and the new son-in-law takes a seat at the table and drinks with the female elders.
1. Return time
In ancient times, it was the third, sixth or seventh, eighth or ninth day of marriage, and there was also a full moon to return home to visit relatives, and the return time was usually the third day after marriage. During the Spring and Autumn period, there were Hui gate customs, which were followed by future generations. Because "Hui gate" is a newly-married couple a Hui gate, it is called "double back gate", there are pairs of auspicious meanings.
2. Dress up the back door
When returning home after marriage, the bride and groom should be as carefully decorated and dressed as they participated in the wedding, and maintain the beautiful and beautiful image of the wedding. If the woman needs to hold a grand return door banquet, the bride and groom should carefully choose the return door dress.
3. What does the bride wear back home
The customs of each place are different, and the clothes worn are also different. But overall there are some similarities, the first is to be new, the color should be based on happiness.
For example, in view of the fact that pure red clothes can not be worn in ordinary times, the clothing can not be worn so once and wasted, so, in order to be able to wear at ordinary times, you can choose lighter pink, pink, pink, or darker red, such as rust red, dark red, as long as it is a brighter tone.
However, it is necessary to avoid these colors, black and white, gray and blue, after all, it does not look festive. Some places wear red clothes on the wedding day, return home can not wear red, but now there is not so much attention.
The style of clothes to choose clothes trousers, or small skirt dresses, dresses long looks very temperament, small skirt looks stable and dignified, dress looks fresh and bright, cheongsam looks solemn and generous, these are the best return door clothing.
But be careful, the skirt to knee length is OK, not too short. Clothing should also be selected according to the temperature throughout the year, spring and autumn can choose a small sweater, a small skirt, summer to choose a dress, winter to choose a beautiful red down jacket or wool coat.
4, back door precautions
When returning home, old customs stipulate that the bride walks in front, and when returning to the man's home, the groom walks in front. Because this return door is the daughter's first return home after her new marriage, some are also called "head trip". After the "double back door", generally not allowed to stay in Yue's home, must return to the man's home on the same day, because in the old days there was a custom of not empty rooms within a month of marriage.
5. What should you prepare when you return home
The old man of the bride's family attaches great importance to the return of three days, so the groom should be prepared in advance, both from the mind and in the gift, and strive to leave a pleasant good impression on the in-laws. At this time, the new son-in-law should also present the "return door gift" and "return door money" to the in-laws, and bring different gifts according to local customs.
Some with a rooster, take "good luck" meaning; Some bring some meat, eggs, noodles and other gifts; And more common or oranges, apples, bananas, wine, etc., the style is not fixed, but do not return to the door for a single, must be even, meaning couples in pairs, a good hundred years, the singular is unlucky.
6, back door banquet
Generally, when the couple gets married, the female family holds a banquet, and the new son-in-law takes a seat at the table and drinks with the female elders. During the meal, the bride accompanied the groom and toasted her parents, relatives and neighbors to thank everyone for their blessings on the wedding.
After dinner, do not rush home, should accompany the parents for a while, listen to their teachings, and then leave home. And should take the initiative to invite two elderly people and brothers and sisters to their own home, you can also invite relatives and neighbors.