When a boy takes you as a spare, he will only take the initiative to contact you when he needs help, and usually will not take the initiative to contact you; He won't introduce you to his family and friends, won't bring you into his life circle; Always blowing you off, ignoring promises to you; Often don't respond to your messages for a long time, and don't explain why afterwards.
1. Reach out when you need help
If a guy treats you as a spare, then he will rarely take the initiative to ask you out and rarely take the initiative to contact you. If he reaches out to you, it's possible he needs help. If you need his help, he may casually reply, "This is not a good time."
2. He won't introduce you to his family and friends
When a person is in love, he can't help but share the good news with the people around him, but he doesn't take the initiative to introduce you to his friends and family, nor does he bring you into his social circle and life circle, when you want him to introduce you to his friends, he always refuses, or says "you and them don't know, don't meet."
3. Always standing you up
Always ignoring dates with you, ignoring promises to you. When you're ready for a date, he says something came up and cancels. Or forget your date, and when you call to inquire, you simply reply, "I forgot." And he often breaks his promises to you.
4. Often not responding to your messages
Guys who use you as a backup often suddenly don't respond to your messages and don't explain why afterwards. Or it takes a few days to respond to an optional sentence.