Preparation before the proposal: prepare appropriate clothes and request a visit to the woman's family.
Determine the day of the proposal: Confirm the day of the proposal with the other party, and choose an auspicious day according to local customs.
Matters to be discussed: marriage, wedding date, betrothal money, bride price, etc.
Specific process: Go out, visit, communication, dining, farewell precautions.
1. Preparation before the proposal
When the man comes to the door, he must be neatly DRESSed and polite. Ask the girl's parents to agree to your marriage, and confirm the wedding date after being confirmed. The date should be set by the woman's family before the proposal to show respect. When put forward, the man said to the woman's parents, "My parents want to find time to visit the home, I wonder when you are free."
2. Choose a day to propose
Generally, people do not care much about the day of the proposal, as long as both parties have free time. If there is a particular and taboo, it is the first lunar month, July do not propose marriage. The double lunar calendar, or the Gregorian lunar calendar are even days, will be more pleasing.
3. What needs to be discussed when proposing
Marriage: Make sure both parents approve of the marriage.
Wedding date: Selection and selection of wedding date.
Retainer: retainer is divided into large and small retainer, the man should take the initiative to ask the woman's views and opinions, such as the size of the amount, and whether to receive retainer and so on.
Normally, after the proposal, the bride's parents are willing to give the bride's birthday to the man to choose a date; However, in some cases, the woman decides the date. You can first express your wish to get married in January or how long you are engaged, and after reaching a consensus, you can choose the date of your birth.
4. The specific process of the man's proposal
Generally, it is suitable to arrange the door at about 5:30 p.m.
Explain the purpose, simple communication of the family situation, both parents know each other, both parents are meeting for the first time, there will be some tension and embarrassment, two children to play a positive and enthusiastic role in regulating the atmosphere, do not let both parents cold.
After sitting for an hour, please the woman's family to eat, to book a restaurant near the woman's home in advance, because to discuss the marriage, so be sure to book a private room, remember.
Start eating around 6:30, the table can improve understanding, the man's parents give the woman bride gift money, the man should not only eat, always pay attention to the woman's parents, add food for them to pour tea, take care of his girlfriend, the food is slow to know a rush, timely to napkins, do the role of the master, quickly eat to take the initiative to checkout.
At the end of the meal, send the woman's family downstairs to say goodbye.