Ancient marriage process from the beginning of the matchmaking to proposing marriage, preparing "three books and six rites" (three books: engagement letter, gift letter, welcome book; Six rites: Natsume, ask name, Naji, Na, request period, welcome) Complete the above steps can be married, and finally there is a He Lang wine link.
1. Matchmaking
In ancient times, if you fell in love with a girl, you would not go to your own door to pursue, as in modern times, but to find an experienced matchmaker for you to go to the girl's home to talk about matchmaking, if the girl also has a good feeling for you, she will say to her parents: "The whole life event depends on the parents", and if the girl is not very satisfied with the man, she will say to her parents: "I want to give my parents two more years of filial piety."
2. Propose marriage
As the old saying goes, "Marriage is arranged by parents and matchmakers." Therefore, before the new people get married, the man must first go to the woman's home to propose, when the two sides exchange the birth date of the children, after a series of complex calculations, that both men and women are suitable for marriage, and the family match, at this time to begin to discuss.
3. Make a date
When the man proposes to the woman's family, it is determined that both men and women are suitable for marriage, and then the two families can enter the link of engagement. In the engagement link, the man to the woman's family to send the "book" is the voucher for the engagement, commonly known as "red and green book paper", and the woman needs to send the man "reply" for recognition, commonly known as "Wen Ding". At the time of engagement, in addition to the written engagement, the two sides also need to discuss the auspicious day of marriage, for the new people to get a good head.
4. Three books and six rites
When both parties are satisfied, the man will begin to prepare the three books and six rites, of which the three books refer to: the engagement letter (the proof of the engagement, which is given to the woman during the six rites of Naji), the gift letter (equivalent to the current bride price list), and the welcome letter (equivalent to the current marriage certificate, which proves that the girl has married the man).
The six rites refer to natai (the man has to send nearly 30 kinds of gifts to the woman), ask the name (the men and women of the eight characters to match), naji (the geng pasted in front of God to ask for instructions), the collection (bride price and dowry), the request period (determine the auspicious day of marriage), and pro-ying (receiving relatives).
5. Worship
When the bridal sedan arrives at the door of the husband's house, the little woman needs to greet the bride out of the sedan. Then they went to the main hall of the wedding and began the tedious worship ceremony. The worship ceremony is divided into three parts, respectively worship heaven and earth, worship parents, worship husband and wife. And these ceremonies required couples to kneel on the ground to kowtow, rather than bowing face to face as is the case today.
6, He Lang wine
In the evening of worship, the men's home is a good day dinner wine, called "He Lang wine". In the Lang wine, the bride must be next to the table to the elders and guests one by one, it should be noted that when the bride is pouring wine to everyone, the wine needs to be filled, but must not spill out.