The seven points to pay attention to engagement are that the two sides should negotiate the engagement time, engagement place, prepare the engagement gift, determine the number of engagement parties, etiquette in place, the man and the woman understand the preferences of both parents and try to avoid when the parents discuss the marriage.
1. Engagement time
The man and the woman's parents communicate and coordinate, set a mutually convenient engagement auspicious day, and go on time.
2. Engagement location
The engagement usually takes place in a hotel or at the woman's home.
Holding an engagement party in the woman's home can show respect to the woman. During the engagement, the boy and his parents need to bring fruit, tobacco, alcohol and pastries until the woman visits the house. If you choose a hotel, it is necessary for men and women to check the hotel dining environment and the quality of catering in advance, so as not to affect the smooth engagement.
3. Prepare an engagement gift
It is natural for the man to carry gifts during engagement to show respect and closeness. Under normal circumstances, tobacco, wine, fruit, tea, pastries, etc. can be presented as gifts, and hometown specialties and in-laws' favorite things can also be prepared. The woman should be ready to return the gift and send it to the man's home early the next morning.
4, the number of engagement party
Generally, three months before the engagement party, it is necessary to determine the guests to participate in the engagement party, so that it is easy to determine the budget and find the right hotel.
5. Be courteous
When parents talk, the boy and the woman should serve tea and water for each other's parents to leave a good impression on each other's parents, so that the other will think that they have found a good daughter-in-law and son-in-law.
6, men and women understand the preferences of both parents
Understand the living habits of both parents, such as etiquette, dietary preferences, taboos, etc. In particular, the man should pay more attention to this point, understand the dietary preferences and taboos of the future parents-in-law in order to make suggestions for their parents, and the gifts should meet the tastes of the woman's parents, especially not to violate their taboos.
7, try to avoid when parents discuss marriage
Parents on both sides began to discuss the marriage, men and women can be properly avoided, less intrusive, as far as possible to respect the views of parents. If you have any objections, you should also discuss with your parents, and do not get angry. If the parents of both sides cannot reach an agreement on some issues, or even quarrel, then the man and the woman should act as a "mediator" and not let the situation expand.