Clothing and appearance: DRESS up cleanly and neatly to leave a good impression on people; Neat environment: The home environment should be cleaned in advance and kept clean and tidy; Serve Dim sum: fruit, juice, sweet tea; Personally welcoming: The female party personally welcomes the male party's guests at the door to show respect and receive them to their seats; Not saying hello: When the man first arrives, the woman cannot say hello.
What should the bride pay attention to when proposing a marriage
1. Clothing and appearance: Dress up cleanly and neatly to leave a good impression on people;
2. Neat environment: The home environment should be cleaned in advance and kept clean and tidy;
3. Serve Dim sum: fruit, juice, sweet tea;
4. Personally welcoming: The female party personally welcomes the male party's guests at the door to show respect and receive them to their seats;
5. Not saying hello: When the man first arrives, the woman cannot say hello;
6. Kind attitude: In the future, if you want to marry into the man's family, do not make things too difficult for him. Both parties should establish a good relationship;
7. No goodbyes: When the man wants to leave, he cannot go out to see off. He cannot say goodbye or come back to sit (meaning he will propose a second kiss), just nod and smile before leaving.
What should we talk about when proposing a marriage
1. Selection and Selection of Wedding Date
Normally, after the proposal of marriage, the bride's parents are willing to give the groom the date of birth and eight characters of the bride to be for him to choose; However, it is also the woman who decides the date. You can first express your desire to get married in which month or how long after engagement, reach a consensus, and obtain your birth date and eight characters for choosing a date.
2. Earnest money
The dowry is divided into large and small. The man should actively ask the woman for her opinions and suggestions, such as the amount and whether to accept the dowry.
3. Engagement gift
Prepare 6 gifts.
Face line: It symbolizes a happy marriage between two people.
Alcoholic beverages: 24 bottles of good wine, symbolizing peace and tranquility throughout the 24 solar terms.
Fuyuan: dried longan and longan, symbolizing prosperity and passing down from generation to generation.
Four color candy: rock sugar, candy, orange cake, winter melon candy, symbolizing sweetness and lifelong growth.
Animal gift: chicken, fresh fish, raw pork or ham. The quantity depends on local customs.
Dou Er Mi: The man prepares 12 jin of glutinous rice and three jin of sugar. This is the material for the woman to make rice dumpling, which means reunion and happiness.
4. Engagement ceremony
Some people only hold a simple ceremony for engagement, inviting 2-3 tables of relatives and friends, while others invite guests during the engagement.
5. Wedding Cake
The money for the wedding cake is the responsibility of the man, usually decided by the woman and paid by the man. Some take a certain amount, some refund more or make up less, some do not refund more or make up less, and some do not make up less but will refund more.
6. Banquet venues and types
The engagement is mainly the responsibility of the bride, so there is no need to interfere too much, but the venue for the wedding should still respect the bride's parents.
7. Give Eight Characters
When proposing marriage, both parties exchange their birthdates and eight characters after reaching an agreement. According to old customs, the number of characters on an eight character chart must be even, and if it is odd, efforts must be made to increase or decrease it to an even number. The woman takes out her BaZi and hands it over to the man, or both men and women exchange their BaZi.
8. Hehe Bazi
The man will find someone to determine the auspicious period based on his birth chart when he returns home. After the auspicious period is determined, he will receive a "auspicious lesson" along with a red envelope and send it to the woman, which is called "invitation period".