According to traditional customs, it is customary to choose a date for door-to-door marriage. In Chinese wedding customs, it is necessary to choose an auspicious day for matters related to marriage, which has a better and more auspicious meaning and represents a happier and more fulfilling marriage for the newlyweds. In the south, the vast majority of places choose auspicious dates for marriage ceremonies, but some regions do not have this particular practice, which can be determined according to local customs.
Do we need to choose a date for our doorstep marriage proposal
Under normal circumstances, whenever it comes to matters related to marriage, it is generally necessary to choose an auspicious day, which means that when going to the bride's house to propose, the date should be considered. This has a better meaning and is more auspicious, representing that the newlyweds can be happy and fulfilled after getting married.
However, it should be decided based on the local wedding customs. In most southern regions, it is customary to choose an auspicious day for a wedding proposal based on the date. Of course, there are also some regions that do not have this rule. Everyone will check the old almanac to see if there are any good days, and if there are good days, they can choose to pass on the same day.
If you want to propose, both parents need to communicate to see which day is more suitable, usually based on the woman's availability.
When is the appropriate time to propose to the bride's house
1. How long ago proposed marriage: It is recommended to propose six months in advance.
2. Date of marriage proposal: It doesn't depend on the date, as long as it's a sunny and pleasant day. If there are any special requirements, you can choose to propose on days with even numbers in the lunar calendar or on days with even numbers in both the lunar and Gregorian calendars, which will be more pleasing. Some elders like days with six.
3. Date of marriage proposal: in the morning, not exceeding 12 noon.
4. Number of suitors: preferably an even number, 6 people (excluding children). Parents must attend (or a representative or influential figure from the family must attend)+groom to be, and for the older generation to propose, a matchmaker must be present. One cannot go together if one has the character of "Gu". For example, one's aunt or sister-in-law (elder sister or younger sister). It is customary for the generation of "Gu" to make the bride secluded after entering the country.
5. Accompanying gifts: Sweet items (not limited to a few), round cakes (representing a full and round atmosphere), apple gift boxes, expressing good luck and happiness (pears are not allowed). Accompanying gifts should be in even numbers, and when presented, the groom's parents can add a few words to show sincerity.