The other party's consumption view, earning power. Who handles the crisis at home. Whether you can be open about your illness. Can you put a TV in the bedroom? Whether you can make good friends with each other. Whether the faith is consistent. Whether you like each other's friends. Whether the other parents will interfere with their lives. Do something to be unhappy. Getting married means giving up some things. Work issues. Attitudes towards sex. Whether the love of the other person is consistent with their expectations. Whether to have children after marriage, who will take care of the children. No matter what happens, it can be overcome.
1, whether to have children after marriage, who will take the children
Modern society is no more than ancient times, women need to care for their husbands and children at home. With the improvement of women's status in modern society, women can also go out to earn money to support their families, so who should take care of their children after marriage, and they need to carefully discuss before marriage so as not to bring trouble.
2, the other party's consumption concept, earning power
Falling in love is not the same as getting married. The cost of falling in love is nothing compared to the cost of getting married. Once married, it is necessary to take care of the whole family, and later the elderly and children, if the two people's consumption concept is different, the difference in earning power is large, it is likely to be contradictory because of money.
3. Who handles the crisis at home
Although the probability of encountering big things is generally small, it is still necessary to determine who will handle the event in case of big things. In China, women generally dominate the small things, men dominate the big things, and the difference between big and small is defined by the two of them.
4. Whether you can be open about your illness
Before marriage, it is necessary to carry out pre-marital examination, so as not to have recessive diseases or sexually transmitted diseases transmitted to each other or passed on to the next generation.
5. Whether the other person's love is consistent with their expectations
When falling in love, I believe that many people will doubt whether the other person loves them, and even more so after marriage. After marriage, everyone is busy supporting the family, and there is not much time for romance, so there will be doubts. If the love of two people is not equal, it is very tired, although love is not completely fair, but at least to almost, in order to make a happy marriage.
6. Can you put TV in the bedroom
Do not underestimate this matter, everyone's habits are different, it is likely to be for a small thing and make a fuss, so even if it is a small thing to discuss.
7. Attitude towards sex
Sex certainly plays a big part in marriage. Before marriage, two people should also think about whether there are inconsistent ideas in sexual life and whether they are satisfied with sexual behavior.
8. Whether you can make good friends with each other
In marriage, two people are not only husband and wife, but also soul mates and good friends. A good marriage, both sides will become good friends with each other, listen to his complaints and happiness, happy together when happy, sad when sharing sadness, sending depression, such a husband and wife relationship is the best, the marriage can be long.
9, whether the belief is consistent
Everyone grew up in a different environment, some people have faith, some people have no faith, which reflects whether the three views of the two sides are consistent.
10. Whether you like your partner's friends
Everyone will have a lot of friends, from the friends can see a person's personality or temperament, so before marriage, to consider whether you like each other's friends, if you do not like each other's friends, the future marriage life for friends quarrel countless times.
11, whether the other parents will interfere with the lives of two people
Marriage is not a simple two people, but two families, parents are also very important, so before marriage to be clear about the other party's parents' personality, whether they will interfere with their future life, whether they can tolerate.
12. What do you get upset about
Before marriage, the two sides can have an honest talk, a good talk, if the other side does something, will make themselves unhappy, be prepared psychologically.
Marriage is about giving up some things
There is a saying in China that "you win something, you lose something", since you have got a marriage, then some things that make the other person unhappy are naturally to give up, such as clubbing, playing all night and so on.
14. Work issues
If two people work in the same city, that's great. But if in different cities, after marriage to different places, two people have thought about giving up their work in order to be together, or choose a long-distance marriage.
15, No matter what happens, can it be overcome
Marriage life has many unknowns, whether they have done well, no matter what happens, can hold each other's hand together to go down the determination.