Consumption differences: If the couple begins to quarrel about each other's consumption concepts, then the two people have at least some differences in values.
The education of the child is not compatible: the two people of the husband and wife on the child's growth environment, education methods and even future aspirations, indicating that your outlook on life is not compatible.
Different Mindsets: If you're arguing about minor life issues, it's a sign that at least you two have different worldviews.
1, consumption concept is not compatible
The first point is "values". Everyone has things they care about and things they are willing to invest money and energy in. Naturally, there are differences. Because of the essential differences between men and women, contradictions naturally need not be said much. Women don't understand why men are willing to spend so much money every month on cigarettes and alcohol in a virtual gaming world that is extremely harmful to the body. Just like men don't understand why women buy so much "identical" makeup and new clothes that only exist in the closet.
If two couples begin to quarrel on each other's consumption concepts, are not willing to pay money for each other, and do not understand and agree with each other, then it means that two people at least have differences in "values".
2, the education of children does not agree
When two people get married, they will naturally devote themselves to the family, and they will also envision and plan, and the future of the next generation is also an important reason for the disagreement between two people. If the husband and wife are still in order to depict the future of the child in the abdomen, a person who wants a child can become a dragon and phoenix, complete their wishes for their own, inherit their own mantle. The other person hopes that the child can have a happy childhood and grow up freely, believing that the children and grandchildren will have their own children and grandchildren.
Husband and wife on the child's growth environment, education and even the future of the dispute, indicating that the two people in the "outlook on life" differences. Through what kind of small environment they want to give their children, they can see that the life they desire is different. So if the couple quarrel about the child, it means that your "life outlook" is not good.
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3. Approach things differently
Tell a small story: the same glass of water spilled half a cup, optimistic people will think that it is OK, there is half a cup left, and pessimistic people will think that, bad, there is only half a cup left. This is the difference, treat a small thing, everyone will have their own feelings, because the mentality is different, the difference is also huge.
Husband and wife two people live under the same roof, sleep in the same bed, there will always be bumps, can not avoid for the trivial quarrel. The small things can be tolerant, and the big things have to be trade-offs, which is the "world view" of the three perspectives.
Two people, encounter a problem, one person wants to solve it head-on, the other person is holding the indifferent mentality to escape repeatedly. This is a serious difference in attitude and approach to the problem, so if two people are arguing about the small disputes in life, it means that at least the two of you have different "world views".