The betrothal gifts belong to the fourth link in the six rites, which is called "paying taxes", and paying taxes is also called great gifts. One month before the wedding, the man's family will make an appointment with a matchmaker to send the betrothal money, betrothal gifts and letters to the woman's family to show their sincerity, and the woman's family will give certain gifts in return.
The meaning of one and six rites
1, the bride: the man's family invited a matchmaker to the woman's home to propose marriage, the woman's family agreed to discuss the marriage, the man's family prepared a ceremony to propose marriage.
2, ask the name: The man's family asks the matchmaker to ask the woman's name and birth date, so as to carry out the subsequent marriage.
3, Naji: The man will retrieve the woman's birth date after the eight, in the ancestral temple for divination. After the auspicious omen, the bride's family was notified and decided to conclude the marriage.
4, levy: also known as Na yuan, refers to the man's family will be sent to the woman's family before marriage.
5, the request period: the male family chooses the wedding date, prepare the ceremony to inform the female family, for its consent.
6, kiss welcome: the groom to the woman's home to marry.
Second, what are the common betrothal gifts
1. Gift money
Also known as betrothal, the same as the present bride price. There are no hard and fast rules on the amount of bride price, mainly according to their own economic conditions and local customs.
2, three gold
Three gold usually refers to gold rings, gold necklaces, gold bracelets, is the necessary gift items, representing the man's attitude and commitment to the woman.
3, incense fireworks
Dragon and phoenix candles and firecrackers are also one of the betrothal gifts, can add to the wedding festive atmosphere, the number is best even, meaning beautiful.
4. Alcohol and tobacco
Choose a higher grade of tobacco and wine, the number should be even, meaning into pairs.
5, four color candy
Prepare 4 different colors of candy, such as winter melon candy, rock candy, orange cake, peanut brittle, etc., meaning sweet honey.
6, two meters
In traditional betrothal gifts, the man should prepare glutinous rice and sugar for the woman's family to make glutinous rice balls, symbolizing completeness and sweetness.
7. Four kinds of fruit
Refers to peanuts, longan, walnuts, lotus seeds and other items, bless the new child more than happiness.
8. Seafood
In the traditional betrothal gifts given by the man, some dried seafood needs to be put in, such as abalone, sea cucumbers, etc., implying more than every year.
9. Three Animals
The man also needs to prepare chickens, pigs, etc., indicating a rich and fruitful life in the future.
10. Two pairs of coconuts
Coconut homophonic "ye" and "son", that there are ye have son, bless the new early birth of your son.