What is the meaning of one, three books and six rites
The three books and six rites are the traditional rites of ancient Chinese people when they got married. The three books refer to the documents of marriage between two families, which generally include the letter of engagement, the letter of gifts, and the letter of welcome. The six rites refer to the six rites in the process from marriage discussion to marriage completion, namely, receiving, asking for names, nagging, receiving, asking for time, and welcoming.
Gift book: that is, the document used in the big gift, listing the items and quantity of the big gift, the longer the gift list, the more beautiful the marriage.
Letter of welcome: that is, the document to marry the bride. It is a document given to the bride by the bridegroom when he welcomes her to the door.
This is the first of the six rites, equivalent to the proposal of modern marriage. If the boy wants to marry the girl, he needs to find a matchmaker, bring the Natse gift, and go to the woman's home with his parents. General Natseri will vary depending on the region.
(2) Ask for your name
After the man knows the woman's birth date, he will go to the temple to find someone to divination calculation, if the result of divination is good omen, then the men will prepare wedding gifts and related matters.
(4) Pay the tax
The invitation period means that after the man's family chooses the auspicious day of marriage, it will inform the woman of the calculated wedding date and obtain the woman's consent, which is the modern day of sending. If the woman has no objection, then the wedding date is officially set.
(6) Kiss welcome
When modern people get married, the man usually buys three gold or hardware for the woman, and the four engaging hardware is more like a word that appears in order to give the betrothal gift, and the four engaging hardware can be understood as the man giving the woman the betrothal gift, expressing the importance and formal meaning.