Another way of saying 'Huimen' is called 'Guining'. In the dialects of the Jiaodong Peninsula, the homophone for "daughter" is "Guining". Later, people used "Guining" to refer to the event of a daughter getting married, which means returning home.
What are the rules for brides returning home
1. Pay attention to clothing matching
After three days of marriage, the groom should also accompany him back to his wife's home. After returning to her parents' home, the family usually holds a back door banquet, although it is different from a formal wedding banquet, it is also necessary to DRESS formally to treat it.
The bride is not allowed to wear a wedding dress, but can try a Chinese qipao, which can be chosen in festive colors. The groom can wear a more formal suit or shirt.
2. On the day of returning home, I did not stay at my mother's house
Returning home is the first time the bride returns to her family after marriage, but she cannot spend the night at home that day and must return to the groom's house with him.
3. Return time
The usual time for returning home is on the third day after marriage. In addition, the time on the day of returning home is also specific, usually starting at 9-10am on the day of returning home to visit the bride's family, which is a good time for returning home.
4. Bring back the door gift
When returning home for the first time after marriage, it is necessary to bring home gifts. In addition to the traditional must-have items such as noodles, pork, peanuts, and garlic, you can also bring some gifts that your parents like or need, and the quantity is based on even numbers.
5. Returning home banquet
When the newlyweds return home after getting married, the bride's family will hold a banquet to entertain them. The new son-in-law will sit on the table and be accompanied by the bride's elders for drinks. The bride's in laws often hold lavish banquets to entertain their new son-in-law, which is known as the 'homecoming banquet'.
During the meal, the bride should accompany the groom and toast her parents, relatives, friends, and neighbors one by one, thanking everyone for their blessings on her wedding.
After dinner, don't rush home. Instead, chat with your parents for a while, listen to their teachings, and then say goodbye and go home. They should also take the initiative to invite two elderly people and their brothers and sisters to their homes, or invite relatives, friends and neighbors.