The significance of engagement lies in further establishing the relationship between the two parties, strengthening the connection between the two families, and preparing for the newlywed life. The engagement process in ancient times was cumbersome and complex. With the evolution of the times, the procedures of the engagement ceremony gradually simplified, mainly including welcoming guests, exchanging gifts, matchmakers speaking, greeting elders, wearing rings, parents giving speeches, toasting, and other steps.
1. Welcome guests
On the day of the engagement ceremony, the newlyweds should arrive at the hotel early and stand at the entrance to welcome the guests.
2. Exchange gifts
At the engagement ceremony, the man will give a betrothal gift and three golds, and the woman needs to reciprocate. The woman usually refunds a portion of the gift money and gives away some clothes, watches, specialties, etc.
3. Matchmaker's speech
If the couple was introduced by a middleman, it is necessary to have the matchmaker express some good wishes to the newlyweds on the day of the engagement banquet.
4. Greetings to elders
After the matchmaker finishes speaking, both parties should introduce each other to their parents and relatives. After the introduction, the prospective couple also needs to offer tea to both parents and change their tune. However, in some regions, the custom of changing their tune is on the day of their wedding, which depends on local customs.
5. Wear a ring
After the above process is completed, the man should put an engagement ring on the woman, which is a token of love and a promise from the man to the woman.
6. Parent's speech
Parents must be deeply moved when they see their children engaged, so they can express their innermost thoughts and send their best wishes to the newlyweds during this session.
7. Toast up
Toasting indicates that the engagement ceremony is coming to an end, and the prospective couple needs to toast each guest one by one, accept their blessings, and express gratitude to them.
8. The banquet begins
After the toasting is completed, the banquet officially begins, and guests can enjoy a hearty drink, chat about daily life, and enhance their understanding of each other's families.