It is not good to obtain the certificate directly without mentioning your relatives. Obtaining a marriage certificate represents the legal recognition of the marital relationship between two individuals. The process of proposing marriage mainly involves demonstrating the sincerity of the groom's family to the bride's family. Only after both parties reach a consensus to become a family, will the bride marry into the groom's family. Although obtaining a marriage certificate proves the establishment of the marriage relationship, it is disrespectful to the woman's family if the certificate is obtained without first proposing to her family.
Why propose first and then obtain the certificate
The main reason for proposing marriage before obtaining a certificate is from the perspective of customs and protecting the female party.
1. Customs and traditions
Traditional wedding customs usually involve the groom offering the bride price first, and the bride agreeing before choosing a date to get married. In modern times, it has evolved to be that both men and women are engaged first, and then the groom gives a bride price. The two of them register and get married, and then the wedding ceremony is held.
2. Protecting the female party
Although the status of women is constantly improving, overall they are still relatively vulnerable to harm. Therefore, proposing a bride price before receiving a certificate is also a form of protection for women.