It is recommended to propose before obtaining the certificate. Although only couples who have officially registered their marriage and obtained a marriage certificate are considered legal spouses, the most important thing before obtaining the certificate is to obtain the consent of both parents for the marriage. Marriage proposal represents the sincerity of the groom's family in marrying the bride, and is a matter of attitude. Furthermore, in traditional marriage, there are issues related to dowries that need to be negotiated. If the marriage proposal is made after obtaining the marriage certificate, it is difficult for the woman to guarantee that she will receive her own maximum benefit.
What are the contents of the marriage proposal negotiation
The groom should pay attention to discussing the following with the bride when proposing a marriage.
1. Marriage: Confirm that both parents agree to this marriage.
2. Wedding date: The selection and selection of the wedding date. Normally, after the proposal of marriage, the bride's parents are willing to give the groom the date of birth and eight characters of the bride to be for him to choose; However, it is also the woman who decides the date. You can first express your desire to get married in which month or how long after the engagement, reach a consensus, obtain your birth date, and then choose a date.
3. Hiring fee: Hiring fee is divided into large and small positions, and the man should actively ask the woman for her opinions and suggestions! Such as the size of the amount and whether or not a commission has been received. (Generally speaking, it is to accept a small contract, withdraw a large contract, or give a house without paying the contract fee)
1) Determine the amount of the major recruitment;
2) Determine the small employment amount;
3) Does the dowry include wedding cakes and other customary expenses, such as uncle's gift, DRESSing ceremony, bride's gift, table pressing ceremony, chef's gift, opening the car door, lighting ceremony, serving dishes ceremony, etc. Or does this money already include cake money, all ceremonial items, and the 12 red envelopes required for the engagement ceremony;
4) Presentation method of engagement fee: check, cash or empty red envelope;
4. The issue of bride's dowry
5. Engagement gift: Should I prepare 6 gifts or 12 gifts
6. Engagement ceremony: Some people's engagement is just a simple ceremony, inviting 2-3 tables of relatives and friends, while others invite guests during the engagement.
7. Wedding Cake: The money for the wedding cake is the responsibility of the man, usually decided by the woman and paid by the man. Some take a certain amount, some refund more or make up less, some do not refund more or make up less, and some do not make up less but will refund more.
1) The number and amount of wedding cake boxes should be carefully discussed, which may lead to disputes;
2) Confirm whether the quantity of the groom's wedding cake gift is included in the cake money given to the bride.
8. Give birth chart: When proposing marriage, both parties exchange birth chart after reaching an agreement. According to old customs, the number of characters on an eight character chart must be even, and if it is odd, efforts must be made to add it to an even number. The woman took out her BaZi and handed it over to the man. Or both men and women can exchange their Eight Characters.
9. Matchmaker's gift: To reward the matchmaker with a gift of money, the man should pay slightly more than the woman's matchmaker's gift. Depending on the relationship between the matchmaker and the new person, it usually costs 2000-3000 yuan; If you really play an important role in the process of dating, you can pay 3000-6000 yuan.
10. ACCESSORIES:
1) Gold jewelry: Choose a set that includes a necklace, earrings, pendant, ring, and 2 bracelets or dragon and phoenix bracelets. It is a gift that the groom and mother-in-law choose to give to the bride.
2) Engagement diamond ring: An engagement diamond ring is a token of affection that the groom puts into the bride's middle finger. The size and value of the diamond are determined by the budget. Usually, the bride will buy a one finger men's diamond ring or plain white gold or plain K gold as a gift to the groom.