Marriage proposal is an important step before marriage, and it is also an important part for the groom's family to express their sincerity to the bride's family. In Chaoshan, when proposing marriage, the groom needs to bring the following things.
1. Gift money
Before proposing marriage, the man should actively ask the woman for her opinions and suggestions, such as the amount and whether to accept the dowry. It is necessary to discuss it beforehand, otherwise there will be a lot of trouble. The betrothal salary is divided into two types: large and small. Generally, the small salary is collected and the large salary is refunded. According to local customs and habits, some regions do not offer wedding gifts.
2. Engagement clothing
The groom's family should bring the engagement clothes purchased for the bride and let her wear them at the engagement banquet. Clothes include ACCESSORIES such as socks, belts, and close fitting clothing.
3. Engagement Three Golds or Hardware
The man needs to buy the three golds or hardware required for the engagement for the woman, and bring them to the woman together when proposing. At this time, either the man buys the goods and gives them to the woman, or he gives the money to the woman's house so that she can buy and choose the style she likes on her own.
4. Traditional objects
A bamboo flower basket contains a pair of immortal herbs, red paper with the man's birth date and eight characters written on it, cigarettes, two pairs of big oranges, a pack of wedding cakes, and a pack of rice cakes.
5. Holiday gifts
If the wedding proposal falls on a festival, you should bring festival gifts in a courteous manner, such as Mid-Autumn Festival Moon cakes, Loong Boat Festival Zongzi, etc.
6. Homemade specialties
If the other party's parents know that it is a specialty prepared by your parents themselves, it means that the female team member is very respectful, sincere, and values this meeting. The first impression of your family can make the other party's parents feel good, after all, they think your family is very concerned about this matter, so they will also be very concerned about their daughter in the future.