The Six Rites have been passed down from ancient times, mainly including the six stages of receiving gifts, asking for names, receiving blessings, collecting taxes, inviting guests, and welcoming relatives. Although many formalities have been eliminated with the development of the times, many regions still follow these main stages.
1. Natsu - Propose marriage intention
Nacai refers to the man sending an intermediary or matchmaker who introduces two people to propose marriage to the woman's family, expressing his desire to become her in laws. If the woman agrees, he will bring the prepared gifts to the woman's family to propose.
2. Ask for Name - Take the Eight Characters of the Female's Name
Asking for a name can be directly understood as the modern meaning, which is asking for the meaning of a name. Because many people believe that before getting married, it is necessary to check whether the two people's birthdates are suitable, so it is necessary to send an intermediary to the woman's house after the engagement to collect her name and date of birth.
3. Najib - Divining the Eight Characters of Two People
This stage is commonly referred to as checking whether two people's BaZi are suitable. The obtained BaZi of the woman and the man are taken together to the ancestral temple for divination, in order to predict whether the two are suitable for marriage. However, with the improvement of modern thinking, many people are not very concerned about the outcome of the marriage.
4. Recruiting - sending dowry to the bride's house
After checking the eight characters of the two people, you can bring the prepared betrothal gifts or money to the bride's home. At this time, the bride's home usually holds a wedding banquet to entertain the groom, representing their own etiquette and recognition of the groom. At this time, the groom's parents should prepare some meeting gifts for the bride, representing recognition of the new daughter-in-law.
5. Please confirm the wedding date and notify the female party
The man determines an auspicious wedding day by checking the almanac, fortune telling, and other methods. After the day is determined, he informs the woman and her parents and seeks their consent.
6. Welcoming - the bride returns her dowry and waits for the groom to marry
After receiving the dowry from the groom's family, the bride should prepare the corresponding dowry according to her actual situation, and then prepare her own room for marriage, waiting for the groom to come and marry.